Toke Makinwa highlights the relationship red flags she avoids at all costs
Nigerian media personality Toke Makinwa recently opened up about key warning signs in relationships that she won’t ignore, explaining behaviors that would make her cut off contact with a man instantly.
During an interview with popular UK content creator Madame Joyce, Makinwa shared the types of behavior that are immediate deal-breakers for her.
“If I meet a man who bad-mouths his ex, he’ll never hear from me again. If he keeps bringing her up, it’s clear he’s not over her, and I’m out. If he’s comparing me to his past, that’s another red flag,” she explained.
She also advised women to be cautious around men who criticize their former partners, warning that “what he did to his ex, he could do even worse to you.” Makinwa pointed out that men often label their exes as “crazy,” which she sees as a way to avoid taking responsibility for their role in past relationship issues.
“You might think he’s just saying she was ‘crazy,’ but every guy makes their ex seem that way,” she said. “If my exes talked about me, they’d probably say I was the crazy one too! I tell women: when a guy calls his ex crazy, he probably drove her to it.”
Madame Joyce agreed, pointing out that many people think, “That could never happen to me,” which can be misleading. Makinwa added that she’s learned not to say “it could never be me” because life often humbles people with unexpected situations.
“I don’t say ‘it can never be me’ anymore, because life has a way of surprising you,” she said, urging empathy and self-awareness in relationships.
Her straightforward advice has struck a chord, with many applauding her honest approach to recognizing red flags and staying grounded in relationships.
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